Like most of you, I’ve watched that Instagram video of Jennifer Lopez climbing out the automotive onto the purple carpet and into the arms of Ben Affleck a number of instances this weekend.
The approach he intimately places his arm across the small of her again, how she whispers one thing we’ll by no means know, which causes him to set free a grimy snort. The 37-second video crescendos to its finale, with the couple posing for footage as Ben pulls Jen in for a remaining embrace earlier than they stroll off arm in arm, adopted by a sea of flashing lights.
In a time the place social media has forcefully pulled the curtain again on the Hollywood façade (whats up TikTok breaking Kylie Jenner’s being pregnant announcement), Ben and Jen have proved that the standard publicity stunt nonetheless holds lots of weight.
Far for me to burst your Bennifer bubble with my very own beliefs that they’re nothing however top-of-the-line PR methods in recent times. After all it wouldn’t matter if I confirmed you concrete proof that their coupling was deliberate by a crew of selling masterminds (I don’t have that proof, sadly) since you need to imagine in them so badly, you’re a part of why their relationship exists.
From the lava lamp that lights my room up a barely sordid neon pink, to the teeny-tiny butterfly clips I purchased on a whim from ASOS, you solely want to take a look at the current purchases of me – a 34-year-old lady – to know that the one consolation we have now in these unsure instances is nostalgia. It’s driving every little thing proper now, not simply my want for a 2003 Louis Vuitton x Murakami multicoloured shoulder bag.
As a lot as we discuss it, we are able to’t fairly fathom what we’ve been via these previous 18 months as a result of we’re nonetheless dwelling via the pandemic. While we all know that life won’t ever be the identical once more, we nonetheless don’t know what that life will appear to be.
If being locked in our properties for weeks like an episode of The Walking Dead wasn’t sufficient, we’re additionally dealing with the realities of local weather change. Flash flooding, unbearable heatwaves, wildfires and storms are a ten o’clock information common, however nonetheless as we chew on our paper straws we are able to’t fairly wrap our heads round the truth that in 20 years (with out motion) we’ll basically be starring in our personal Tom Cruise catastrophe movie.
Just such as you, I can’t commute that I’m going to be 54 years previous sooner or later, not to mention 54 and canoeing via Soho because of the rising sea ranges our governments have ignored all these years.
All of this feels an excessive amount of to deal with and I haven’t even touched on the political divides tearing international locations aside, racism, meals shortages, Brexit and the rise of pretend information fuelling anti-vax believers.
So in fact, we’re going to retreat to our childhood bedrooms with our lava lamps and comply with Instagram accounts that regram nothing however Britney Spears pre-conservatorship VMA performances and Jessica Simpson pre-divorce Newlywed quotes.
It’s all merely an excessive amount of, however you understand when it wasn’t an excessive amount of, when it didn’t really feel like we had been all doomed? When Jen and Ben had been on that yacht again in 2002, again when your largest drawback was get these pink Chloe sun shades with the crystal coronary heart within the nook.
Our rose-tinted glasses are on so firmly that we have now virtually made Bennifer 2.0 come to life. Why do you suppose they recreated these iconic boat footage 20 years later? Same cause why Addison Rae’s movie debut is a remake of She’s All That, nostalgia sells.
When life is that this scary, recollections aren’t sufficient. We have to really feel a tangible hyperlink to our previous. It’s why I’m trying to find Baby G watches on eBay, while Kanye West is constructing replicas of his childhood house.
If the pull of nostalgia wasn’t sufficient, Bennifer have one different trump card up their sleeve: the age-old trope of exes reuniting.
You’re fairly fortunate in case you haven’t gone via life having a ‘one that got away’. You know that one particular person out of your previous that comes into your reminiscence simply earlier than you fall asleep. The one who you haven’t seen for years but nonetheless by some means scent their acquainted scent once you’re standing on the tube platform fully alone.
A fast Google of ‘how to get your ex back’ proves that you just’re not the one one cursing that your misplaced lover has a non-public Instagram account. “How to get your ex back permanently”, “6 secrets to getting back together with an ex”, “Attract your ex back into your life again”.
Jennifer and Ben have finished what a whole lot and hundreds of us have longed to do. Seeing them stroll the purple carpet offers us the identical type of hope as studying the “12 must-follow rules for getting back together with an ex”. They are the dwelling embodiment of what we might be experiencing if we might simply get via these subsequent 11 steps.
In reality, we live so vicariously via them, that their staged photoshoots at the moment are a supply of consolation. We discuss them with our pals like we all know them, we so desperately need them to be actual as a result of the solace they supply us with permits us to keep away from our personal uncertainties.
Yeah, you would have a scroll via Hinge and angst over in case you might date somebody who owned a lizard, or you would scroll via Instagram movies of Bennifer as a substitute and marvel what it could be wish to reunite along with your ex.
However, it’s value nothing that very similar to our rose-tinted nostalgia glasses trigger us to fully ignore the horrible elements of the early ‘000s – the dimensions zero-obsession, the Iraq conflict, the worldwide monetary disaster and the boxing day Indonesia tsunami (to call a number of) – in addition they cease us remembering the unhealthy elements of our exes. We don’t bear in mind the drudgery of our earlier each day lives with them, the snide feedback about our pursuits, or the the cowardly approach they left our lives by no means to be seen once more.
Which is why it’s vital that we don’t get misplaced within the sauce of nostalgia. Beause similar to Bennifer’s relationship, we are likely to put our recollections on highly-embellished pedestals.